Have you ever mapped a goal before? Professionally or personally? It is one of the most rewarding and also challenging experiences if you truly dive into the "why". Some of the professional goals I have aren't concurrent with my personal goals; they haven't been blending well and I've been trying to figure out how to keep my own internal peace. With goals you want to think of the What, Why and your value system and as you create your action plan to make the goals happen. It's easy for me to think "I want to create my own fitness studio" and "I want to create a line of workout DVD's", since they are goals that has popped into my head off and on over the last 15 years. Some parts of them seem incredibly rewarding, but other aspects such as being the key command person, are daunting. With contemplating my own goals, I wrote down everything I want to accomplish through July 2013. Goals ranging from fitness writing, set childcare specific hours, bookkeeper for business, to family vacation days every month. One challenge of being an entrepreneur is your mind continues to think of new ideas, but when also a Mom who is the primary caretaker with a limited childcare budget, it can get tricky. So I mapped, thought, dove deep into what I truly want out of my personal and professional life this next year. And continued to think of one word- gratitude.
After goal mapping, we went through a Value Assessment. It is a list of 51 words ranging from Abundance and Accomplishment to Trust and Wisdom. The objective is to see if your personal and professional value words meld together, creating a symbiotic balance to achieve your goals. For me, the word that continued to be my top was Gratitude. And it resonated as the group shared what their words were, discussing means to find a blend of words to grow goals from.
I started writing on a sheet how and why I am grateful and the gratitude I have for my family, life, work, balance, etc. The epiphany from the night before popped to the front of my brain like a movie on repeat...and it was this:
|My nontraditional schedule allows me a lot of playing with these two monkeys|
Yet, at that moment, I felt incredibly grateful and full of gratitude.
Grateful for two daughters who only know how to feel strong, active, adventurous, eager for happiness, and full of love.
Grateful for a husband who works hard and supports my goals and dreams in the health and fitness industry, encouraging me along the way to go for projects I initially thought were out of my reach.
Grateful for the ability to feel OK with having less money, but more time with the kids.
Grateful that my business has me working in the morning before anyone is awake and I get to appreciate the sunrise daily.
Grateful for a schedule that allows me to walk Makenzie to school daily.
Grateful for Jack and I emptying out ideas of what we "should" be doing, and creating what we want to be doing.
Grateful for laughter filled moments with friends as we laugh about everything and anything.
Grateful for my own parents and siblings who are close by and love my family as much as I do.
Grateful for the opportunity to do what I love daily in health and fitness, helping people reach outside of their comfort zone and owning their strength and even stronger bodies.
Grateful to know I need to live in the Moment.
Grateful to have the feeling that if something doesn't get done for work because of a kiddo factor, it is OK and will be good because my kids will always win over work.
Thus, when going over the values assessment at the Lucky Ladies meeting, the strongest word resonating with my gut was Gratitude. Realizing that allowed me to throw out a couple old goals that I honestly, don't want. Yep, I actually decided to toss a few that have traveled years with me, out the window. The DVD goal would pull me away from my family to much right now, and I realized wouldn't have me feel grateful, but most likely more stressed. One of my new goals is to create quality mini videos similar to the fitness challenge I did. Goal shift is acceptable because I am happy on various levels and immediately feel less stress. I am trying to eliminate stresses, not create them, which is what some bigger professional goals would be at this moment. So I shared. I shared with the group how I am grateful. I am grateful for some big professional goals that are coming to fruition, and for the grateful list I created to keep me focused to what is important...to me. As I shared, I felt lighter. I felt excited. I felt joyous. I felt OK with throwing out a couple old goals. Most of all I felt Grateful.